Why Does Everyone Keep Shooting At Me?
Hey Gang,
I posted previously about a leader and his constant companion of pain. Most people have been able to feel the pain of leadership and know what I’m talking about. One of the pains I listed was constant criticism and real rejection. I have been on the receiving end of this kind of pain so many times it is mind-boggling.
How do we cope with something none of us want to endure or experience?
1. Know it is coming. We must be forewarned and prepared. As I read of one missionary: “It is not the elephants that get you, it is the termites.” It is not one big deal, but the daily deal of dealing with the pain. Jesus experienced it and so must we. This is not a negative confession, it is the Bible.
2. Choose now to be a God-pleaser. If you want to please people you will not be able to honor God, and you will never please them anyway. We must make hard decisions and lead down difficult roads, so be ready for the fall-out. It will come. Decide you will attempt to honor and please God in each and every action and attitude.
3. Be gracious to people when they disagree. People will criticize and reject you, but it does not need to be because you have a bad attitude. If you love those who disagree and listen to them, most will follow you.
4. Let people leave that want to. I think most church members have a life-span at one church. People will leave and that is O.K., so let it be good with you. You can’t take it personally. Remember they crucified the Lord and killed most of the prophets. You will experience some of the same. Be ready!
5. Realize and recognize that if you are the leader you will be out front and you become an easy target. So expect some “friendly fire.” We prepare for attacks from the devil not the disciples.
To be forewarned is to be prepared. You are not alone. “You are surrounded by a great cloud of witnesses.” Jesus is with you. The Holy Spirit fills you. We love you. This blog is for you; you are not alone.
Yours to count on,
Pastor
3 Comments
This is so true. We talked last fall after I accepted a new position as a manager. After nearly 15years in a position where I did not manage anyone. Now days I feel a have a faint target on my back. Using the limited leadership skills I have it as a challenge at first. Not to say it’s easy now. However having read some great books has helped. Not to mention learning from you. Love you, my pastor and friend. Larry
I know the pain of constant criticism and rejection of being in church leadership. I like what you say on how to help deal with it. I’m sure you’re advice will help many in leadership today. I’d rather be a “God-pleaser” than a “people pleaser” any day!
If you are trying to please God, then those that are also tryng to please God should be on the same page and respect and support their leadership, leaving a good indication of those in need of true Christian outreach of love and prayer. Your words are good advice.